Crystal Crazy! (and a Crystal of the Month post)

I’ve been so busy lately making beautiful Crystal Therapy jewellery for so many lovely customers that I’ve hardly had time to write anything at all for either of my blogs (this one or The Big H). It’s amazing to be helping so many people and to be spreading the awesomeness of Crystals, but I really must find time to pop back here and write a thing or two, which is exactly what I’m doing now…

If you’ve not yet popped over to my jewellery page on Facebook, or you simply had no idea I even had one, it’s right here; Jewellery for Healing, so come and visit!

Crystal of the Month

You may or may not notice in my pictures that I often lay my pieces over a lovely big black chunk of rock, and while it is partly for the aesthetics of the picture (because the big black rock is GORGEOUS by itself), it also serves an important purpose for the jewellery that I make.

The big black rock is a piece of beautiful Black Obsidian, and it is one of my favourite crystals from my own personal collection. I found it in a local crystal shop for the bargain price of £4 (I know, right!) and it is a vital part of my treatments and my jewellery making.

You see, Black Obsidian is a potent stone for grounding and releasing negative energies back into the Earth. It draws off these stagnant or non-serving energies and transmutes them into the ground, and back to source (since energy can be neither destroyed of created, on converted).

Obsidian is actually molten lava that has cooled rapidly and crystallised. It has an almost glassy quality about it but it usually completely opaque. You can get all sorts of colours from red, to green, and even rainbow, but black brings together the spiritual plane with the physical, and very quickly brings imbalances to the surface, dispelling them and protecting at the same time.

It is said that nothing can be hidden from Obsidian, exposing flaws, weaknesses, and blockages extremely quickly in order to deal with, heal, and move on from. Because of its potency and its ability to bring unpleasant truths to the surface, it is recommended to be used under the guidance of a Certified Crystal Therapist.

For all these reasons, my large piece of Black Obsidian is used to draw off energies and cleanse jewellery before they go off to their new homes. It is also placed at the feet of every client who takes a nap on my treatment bed, and almost everybody falls in love with it.

Black Obsidian, and a few other colours, are readily available in most crystal shops, although greens and blues may be quite rare. If you are lucky enough to come across a piece that grabs your attention, it is bound to become a favourite of yours too.

I’ll try if I can to post a Crystal of the Month…funnily enough….each and every month, so you can learn more about the awesomeness of these amazing stones, but I also post a small description of each one along with my jewellery pics on Facebook and Instagram so come see me!

Namaste, you beautiful souls.

xxx

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Chakra Sunday – Throat Chakra

Happy Sunday, folks!

It’s Chakra Sunday time! We have been gradually making our way through all the chakras, what they affect, and how we can help to bring them into balance. Today is the turn on the fifth chakra, and the one responsible for our communication.

The Throat Chakra connects our higher chakras to our centre and the heart, by way of our communication with others, with ourselves, and with the Universe. When this Chakra is out of balance, we may find it difficult to express ourselves, or feel trapped by an inability to speak our own truths. Physically, we can experience problems with the Thyroid Gland, sore throats and sinus infections, or neck and shoulder pain.

Some verbal affirmations can really help to heal the Throat Chakra. Saying out loud,

“I am honest and clear in all my communications. I am able to speak my truth with grace and kindest. My thoughts and opinions are worthy. I express myself with love and I know when to listen.”

With the Throat Chakra, it will be really beneficial if you can say these affirmations out loud, but if you are uncomfortable, or unable to, communicating them clearly to yourself while in meditation will be effective.

Sitting comfortably, take a few deep, cleansing breaths and once you find your rhythm, visualise a bright blue flower sitting upon your throat and opening up little by little with each inhalation. Focus on the colour of the flower and its beautiful blue petals. Take a few moments to pay attention to the area around your throat and any sensations you experience. Don’t worry or let negative thoughts about those sensations distract you, the throat is a sensitive area and sometimes, even in meditation, any sensation of restriction can be alarming. Just let the sensation be, remain calm and bring your attention back to the flower and its petals. Say the above affirmation for as long as you feel necessary.

The Throat Chakra vibrates with a brilliant blue colour, so wearing blues and surrounding yourself with this calming colour will really help. Eating blueberries, currants, blue grapes, blackberries, and dragon fruit will also help.

If you love your crystals as much as I do, Blue Lace Agate is perfect for the Throat Chakra, as is Sodalite, Lapis Lazuli, Aquamarine, and Turquoise. Wearing them as a necklace is the best way to bring them into effect on the body.

Spending some time mindfully looking up at the sky is also a great way to activate this chakra.

Namaste, folks! Thanks for reading…give me a like and a follow if you like what you read, there is more where this came from.

Love and light!

xxx

When the reiki doesn’t flow…

Reiki is a gift from the Universe, and it is available to you whenever your intention is set. It flows easily whenever you speak of, engage in, or even think about your relationship with reiki.

For many of us, the above statement is entirely true, and then some. Anyone who has a relationship with reiki will understand this. I call it a relationship with reiki because that’s what it is. It will never be an insignificant piece of your life, even if it sits quietly in the background for a long time, it is always there.

So, what do we do as practitioners, or even simply reiki-ists, when the reiki doesn’t flow?

I recently had a reiki crisis. I’m going to call it a crisis of faith because even though reiki isn’t a religious process or practice, it is, in my opinion, as near as I will likely get to one. I had a crisis of faith because the reiki wouldn’t flow and the crystals wouldn’t speak (I’m a crystal therapist too).

Even self treatments didn’t help. I found myself agitated…unable to complete a simple self treatment without feeling anxious…frustrated.

Within the space of a week all my clients had either cancelled on me, or I on them, for one reason or another. It was a giant, massive, not-to-be-missed sign from the Universe.

I stopped.

I stopped everything and I waited.

I am a firm believer in following divine guidance and I try as much as possible not to resist when I’m being shown something very clearly. I figured that something was off, that I was resisting whatever was meant to be, and when the time was right the Universe would give me a clear cut sign that I was continue treating with reiki and crystals.

It’s taken several months for the reiki to come back…not that it ever really went anywhere…but it’s taken me that time to realise two very, very, important things regarding my practice with this amazing modality.

Number One – Reiki is for Me. I’d forgotten that the reason I started my journey with reiki was because it had a profound effect on me. Not because I just wanted to treat others. Of course, I wanted to help other people and that had a huge influence on my decision to practice rather than simply receive, but ultimately, the reiki has to be for me before it is for anyone else.

This is the first thing you learn when you start to learn reiki…that self treatments are the foundation of your practice and ability. That you are your most important client and unless you are well, you cannot offer anything to anyone else. It is not selfish to take care of yourself first, it is your responsibility as a practitioner.

Number Two – I cannot have an attachment to the outcome. Reiki flows where it is needed for a person’s highest good. While I knew this, and I told my clients this, it has taken me this time away to realise that I was absolutely forming an attachment to the outcome…It just happened so subtly. As a new practitioner, I wanted clients to get the best possible results from my treatments. I am still learning my craft and I’m unintentionally praying for miracles so I can validate myself and the reiki. When a client told me their back was aching, I would treat their back, but I would also will the reiki to remove the pain rather than simply let the reiki do its thing.

Willing reiki to do something reiki doesn’t want to do is just counterproductive. I was setting myself up for failure. I never meant to create these attachments, and I didn’t even realise I was doing it until I carried out my most recent treatment.

I worked on myself for a long time before. I performed my Hatsurei Ho several times in the days leading up to it. I sat back and let the reiki flow for itself. I didn’t think about what I wanted as the outcome for the treatment, I thought about nothing but brilliant white light flooding my client’s body and I listened to what the reiki told me throughout.

It was an amazingly different experience and one that gave me the same high that I got when I started working with reiki.

It’s not all over, my recovery from my crisis of faith, but at least the reiki is flowing happily now, and the crystals have started to speak again. This is a journey, a learning curve that I feel may never be finished…I will always be learning thanks to reiki, but I must stop focusing on the outcome and start enjoying the journey.Reiki.png

On coming back to myself…

So, I wanted to share something a little more personal and while browsing through some of my own writings on a different site, I came across this little rambling that I let fall out of my head a few months ago.

It’s worth noting that I did drag myself out of this place…I’m certain I’ll find my way back again, but as long as I always acknowledge it and push forward I will always find a way out.

Hopefully it might help a soul or two if it resonates with anyone…

I’m externalising again, and I need to come back to myself.

It’s been such a crazy few weeks…months…that I’ve let myself slip out of the place that I’d finally begun to feel happy in. The place inside myself that is here and now. I’ve always externalised. Always looked outside for something to fill the void, something to make it better. I’m not even looking right now for anything to make things better, I couldn’t be happier with my life, I’m just so damn used to living there that I hadn’t even noticed I’d been doing it.

It came like a lightening bolt, out of the blue. The ground beneath me shook and for a moment, I lost my bearings. I began to fall and while I looked around for someone to catch me, I realised I’d been doing it again…Looking around for someone to catch me.

Catch your own damn self, Ej.

Life runs away with you when you’re not looking. I need to stop and catch my breath again. I need to get back to myself. I was there…I know I can do it again…I just need to reign myself in and sit in it.

I feel like there’s pain to come.

I never liked pain…Well, not in this manner, anyway.

But you can’t grow without pain, and you can’t learn if you consistently turn your back on the lessons.

I think my ground shook for a reason. Maybe to throw me off balance, maybe to force me to see. I trusted the ground to stay safe and stable. But even the ground can shake and crumble.

This inane rambling was brought to you from the messed up mind of Ej…Don’t worry if it makes no sense to you…It probably wasn’t meant to.

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It Hasn’t Been Easy…

So, I’ve been AWOL for some time now, in almost every one of my writing capacities. I could say it hasn’t been intentional, but it hasn’t been entirely unintentional either. I’ve spent the vast majority of the last 12 months on a massive journey of personal development. To say my whole life has changed would be an understatement. It was not planned, it was not preempted, and it certainly wasn’t expected, yet it has been the most gratifying (and at times difficult) journey that I have ever been on.

Only one thing has remained a constant in this last year, and shall remain a constant in the years to come; first and foremost, I am a mother. But, it is not unreasonable to state that every other aspect of my life is unrecognisable from where I was.

I’ve learned an awful lot about myself along the way, and I will continue to learn an awful lot about myself in the future; I am ever evolving and no matter how much we might want life to stand still on occasion, it has absolutely no intention of doing so, so we must all keep moving, keep learning, and keep growing.

However, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I am a better person right now than I was. I am a happier person right now than I was.

I believe we all have a path. Call it fate, or destiny, or whatever you choose, but ultimately I believe it is all one in the same. I believe that when we follow that path, we receive great things, we feel fulfilled, we are content. I believe that when we deviate from that path, or fight it, we start to feel unhappy, stagnant, bored, distracted, isolated, disconnected, and any number of negative emotions that we ignore or brush under the carpet.

For me, making the decision to find my way back to my path was a fully conscious and extremely painful one. I had to take every idea and concept I had ever had about my life and its trajectory and cast it all aside. I had to throw away a lifetime of plans and ambitions (of my own and of other’s), and start from scratch. From the beginning. Without a safety net and no light at the end of the tunnel.

I took a leap of faith.

The problem was, I had begun a process of awakening within myself and I had absolutely no way to shut it down. The Universe was going to throw its all at me and I could either choose to embrace what was happening to me, or I could bury my head in the sand and those negative emotions would just begin piling up on top of me.

I fought the decision hard. To be honest, I have fought an awful lot over the past year, but when the Universe has other ideas, there really is no point fighting, because, as a friend of mine likes to point out, it’s just going to keep coming for me till it turns up with a sledgehammer. As has been the case for me on many occasions.

So, I made the decision to embrace my awakening.

Boy, does the game really begin when you do that.

You see, a lot of people have this idea that a journey of self-discovery is all flowery and fluffy with lots of lovely, relaxing, meditations, when in reality, it’s a little more like being a rollercoaster that you have a kind of love/hate thing going on with and you can’t get off. The thing is, this particular path is inevitably painful.

Aside from the actual, physical decisions that I have made, and some of the brutal lessons I have had to confront head on, I have also had my fair share of reality inducing epiphanies. The sort where you actually get to look real hard and real close at the person you are, and the reasons you are the person you are, and either accept them, or let them go.

This. Is. Hard.

We become the idea we have of ourselves and we form an identity through the way we behave and the decisions we make based on the evidence and experience we have in front of us. The problem is, we’re under the illusion that we are solely affected by outside influences and we have a terrible habit of blaming an awful lot of our character of things that have happened to us along the way.

This is the hard bit.

Owning up to the idea that actually, we have always had a choice to react to everything in a different way, or in a better way, is pretty challenging. Taking responsibility for the people that we are, especially the bits we don’t like about ourselves, is not easy.

Confronting things that happened to me with a very realistic attitude, and coming at them in my head from the angle that I actually feel about them, rather than the angle that I’ve convinced myself I should feel about them and then dealing with them emotions is not easy.

Stepping up to the plate and making myself accountable for everything that I do, say, think, and feel, in such a way that I recognise this is my journey, and my path, and no one can help me through this particular part can be lonely, and let me tell you, it is not easy.

I’m not really selling this whole self-development thing, am I?

Well, let me also tell you this…

I could not be happier.

I have a much better understanding of who I am now. For the first time in my life, I can genuinely and honestly say that I like myself and that I’m happy in my own skin.

I’m not fighting against the tide any more. I’m not seeking my happiness externally, with things or ideas. I just am.

I am happy.

I’ve been given so many wonderful gifts since I started this journey; it’s as if I’m being rewarded for progressing up my personal and spiritual ladder, which I suppose I am. I most recently completed my Reiki First Degree, something I have wanted to do for over 10 years but never thought I would get round to. It’s amazing what you manage to ‘get round to’ when you realise you deserve to put yourself first.

And that’s it really, that’s what it’s all about; realising that you deserve to put yourself first. I’ve had a quote that’s gone round and round in my head ever since I started this whole thing, and one day I will have it emblazoned on a wall in my home, or maybe even tattooed on my body…

“You are a child of the Universe; no less than the trees or stars.”

Mind Your Language!

I am a writer. As a result of this, I have learned one very valuable lesson above all others – to mind my language!

It seems obvious but, the most challenging thing I have to do on a day to day basis when I am writing for an audience is to pay close attention to exactly what I am saying; and I mean word-for-word.

Even the most hardcore and devoted reader can often side step the odd punctuation mistake, spelling error, or (heaven forbid!) the occasional grammar mishap – but saying the wrong thing; now that is unforgivable.

Of course, writers write from the heart, they write from experience, and they often write with an opinion; and we all know that you cannot please all of the people all of the time. It is impossible. There is always a chance you will offend someone…Nine times out of ten, you cannot, no way, no how, in any true sense, write a single sentence that everybody can wholeheartedly agree with. And of course, writing should be written with passion. But, all that aside, if you knew the time and energy that goes into wording each sentence, each paragraph, with enough care and attention to detail so as to make what I am trying to say as open, as honest, and as understandable as possible, it would almost certainly surprise you.

There is a fundamental need for clarity.

Every article I have penned has gone out into the world with an intention. Be it mine, or my client’s, there is a very clear and defined intention behind each and every piece, and I am careful with the language I choose. I am always aware that I have an audience.

We all have an audience. The Universe is listening to every thought, every word, every intention.

It occurs to me, that I need to take the same care and pay as much attention to my thoughts and my language in my every day life, as I do in my professional one. I don’t want to send negativity out into the world any more than I want to write a harshly worded article. My audience is listening, and I am creating a reality for it that I willfully attach myself to.

If I write, or think, angrily, then I send anger out into the world, into The Universe, to my audience. I should not expect to receive, or fuel, anything but anger in return, afterall, I set my intention.

On the flip side of this, if I write, or think, or speak with love, with compassion, with honesty, if I choose to look for the positive light, to side step the negativity and turn it on its head, then I send a message to The Universe, to my audience, that can only be received as it is intended; with love, with compassion, with honesty.

I choose to set my spiritual voice with the best possible intentions, in order to receive the very best that The Universe has to offer me.

Recognise the language that you use. Be aware of the thoughts that you have. Be mindful of the words that you speak. You have an audience.