I am selfish…And that’s ok

I am selfish…And that’s ok.

We’re taught that it’s not ok to be selfish, that we must put others first and making ourselves happy is akin with greed and ego. Of course we should teach our children how to share, of course we should be generous in as many ways as we can, of course we should not give in to greed and ego, but when it comes to our soul, we absolutely must be selfish.

I am selfish…and that is ok. In fact, it’s better than ok, it’s absolutely the right thing to do and is what every human being should be first and foremost if they want to find true happiness.

This is your life, your journey, your path. No one else can live it for you and you cannot live anyone else’s. We each have our own lessons to learn and we ARE being shown the way, if we pay attention to the signs.

So, what do I mean by ‘selfish’? Well, I’ve lived the vast majority of my life trying to be accepted and loved by others. I’ve tried to please everyone and make others happy. I’ve put my own needs aside in order to provide a certain lifestyle or environment for those I love. I’m, of course, not referring to the things we sacrifice as mothers and fathers, of course we put our own needs aside for the purpose of raising children, but there comes a point when the sacrifices we make go much deeper than that. They start to infringe on our soul and our actual path. We dull our own sparkle. We put ourselves in a nice restrictive box because at one point in time this was what was required of us and it made other people happy…but time does not stand still. I, no more than you, could not fight it forever, not without making myself bitter and unhappy.

What’s strange to me now, is that I see it everywhere I look; that bitter unhappiness, masquerading as ‘life’. It’s ignored, brushed under that carpet, passed off as ‘life is cruel’, or ‘life’s a bitch’, but the truth is, we create our own reality. Yes, The Universe can seem cruel, it can give us painful lessons, but it is our reaction to those lessons that produces the eventual outcome.

Burying our heads in the sand in the name of ‘getting on with it’, gives us nothing. Accepting negativity and unhappiness brings us nothing but more negativity and unhappiness. But within that, putting our own needs aside for the happiness of others, for fear of rocking the boat while slapping a smile on it will only ever lead to sadness, anger, frustration and unhappiness. It’s a sorry way to spend your life and it happens all the time.

Everything has a ripple effect, and as soon as I realised that I no longer fitted into the neat and tidy box I had created for myself, I started to feel that bitterness, which I could see impacting on the people around me. It’s a strange realisation, to admit that you are unhappy. I mean, deep down, within your soul, unhappy. It starts to fester, to grow like an ever present virus and it feels like poison.

The reality of that was enormous. It had the potential to change the lives of the people I loved the most in an excruciating way. I tried to revert back to the state of happiness that had created the box in the first place. But that state of happiness was actually a point in time that was long in the past, and no matter how hard I fought to return to it, I couldn’t quite get it back. It’s like digging a tunnel in a straight line and expecting to return to where you started.

I made a conscious decision.

I was no longer going to feel like that.

It was a selfish decision. And it was the right one.

“I am not required to set myself on fire to keep other people warm.”

This is my one life, my one journey, my one soul; and I am going to be happy.

As soon as it was decided in my mind, my soul felt a little more at ease. The bitterness started to dissipate. It was a relief.

It was a challenge, the physical act and the ultimate process, but I recognised it was a lesson that I was meant to go through.

I kept my eyes open and my mind as still as possible. I listened to my soul, to The Universe, I followed my instinct; wonderful things started to happened when they needed to happen. For the first time in a long time I felt like The Universe was on my side…it’d always been on my side, I’d just been ignoring all the signs.

Incredibly, there appeared, very quickly, a series of synchronicities that were happy coincidences initially, until they became almost laughably obvious signals that I was finally exactly where The Universe wanted me to be; and the more I became aware of them, the more I received; and the more I received, the more I acknowledged them with a grateful heart.

The result? Happiness. Peace within my soul. An abundance of gratitude for The Universe and the blessings that I have. Courage to confront myself and ask whether or not something is really meant for me, and the contentment that comes from knowing I am on the right path.

I am selfish…And I’m a better person for it.

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Raise Your Frequency

You are a human being, and as such, you are made entirely of the fabric of The Universe. The matter that makes up the trees and the stars is no different in terms of physics. We all vibrate at a molecular level and emit a frequency of our own. This is not witchcraft or magic, it’s not fluffy nonsense or spiritual mumbo jumbo; this is science.

When you vibrate at the correct frequency, you become attuned to certain Universal principals in much the same way that a radio tunes in to certain stations. Vibrate at a higher frequency, think positively and beautifully, and you will tune yourself in with all things wonderful and good. Think negatively, expect bad luck, and see only the bad in every situation, and you will tune yourself in with such things and only receive what you perceive to be bad.

It’s not rocket science; nor is it karma, or luck, or any kind of Universal balance sheet…it’s very simple. It’s the Law of Attraction; Albert Einstein, himself, agreed with this principal.

Allow yourself to vibrate at the highest possible frequency and you will be open to receiving all the miracles that The Universe has to offer. It’s quite easy…

Step 1 – Think positive

No more negativity. Easier said than done, right? Perhaps to begin with, but positivity is a habit, and good habits need to be consciously created. Make a concerted effort to be more positive on a day to day basis. When negative thoughts creep into your mind, be aware of them, put a conscious stop to them, and be positive.

Step 2 – Be grateful

And say it out loud. We all have something to be grateful for. Most of us have an abundance of wonderful things to be grateful for. Notice them. Be consciously thankful for them. Have an attitude of gratitude.

Step 3 – Be still

When we quiet the mind, we can hear the soul speak. Sit still and just breathe. Switch off the constant train of thought and listen to the silence. Pay attention to your heartbeat, to the rhythm of your breathing, to the sense of your own body. Even if it’s just for a few minutes, take the time and just be still.

Step 4 – Eat clean

You wouldn’t expect to see beautiful wild flowers and nature at its finest at a toxic chemical dump…you can see where I’m going here, can’t you? Toxins and chemicals in our food have a serious effect on our body and mind. Now, this is a subject that I could wax lyrical about all day long, but for now just take this tiny morsel of advice…if any of its ingredients look like they came out of a science lab, don’t eat it. Why would you want to? Oh, and also, drink more water, it’s good for you.

It’s true that all of these become easier with practice, and some of them will initially feel entirely out of your comfort zone; but it’s important to remember that’s only temporary. You’re reprogramming your body and mind to be more in tune with The Universe at an abundantly pure and natural level, nothing bad can come of that…everything is about to get so much better, you’ll see 🙂

xxx